Intergenerational Trauma Therapy

The past is lived in the present.

Maybe you've noticed it in the moment your child melts down and your body reacts before your mind even catches up. Maybe it's the words that fly out of your mouth that sound uncomfortably like your own parents. Or maybe it's just a quiet, nagging fear: what if I pass this down, too?

If any of that sounds familiar, you're not failing. There's a reason this feels hard — and healing is possible.

What Is Intergenerational Trauma?

Intergenerational trauma is the ripple effect of pain, stress, and unmet needs that travels from one generation to the next. It's not always dramatic. Sometimes it looks like a family that never talked about feelings, a parent who was doing their best with too little support, or a childhood where love was real but so was fear.

You inherited more than your grandmother's eyes or your dad's sense of humor. You may have also inherited nervous system patterns, beliefs about what love and safety look like, and coping strategies that made sense once but don't serve you now.

Here's the part we want you to hold onto: Understanding where your patterns came from doesn't let anyone off the hook — including you. What it does is give you a place to actually start.

HOW WE HELP

Think of it like tending a garden. You can trim the weeds at the surface over and over, but they keep growing back until you get down to the root. That's the work we do together — not to dig up pain for its own sake, but to make room for something new to grow.

In our work together, we may draw on:

EMDR to help your nervous system process memories that are still running the show in the background.

Brainspotting to access and release what's stored below conscious awareness.

We'll go at a pace that respects your nervous system, not just your calendar. Healing isn't linear, and we won't pretend otherwise.

Who This Work Is For

This is a good fit if you're a parent who:

  • Feels overwhelmed by the demands of parenting more often than you'd like to admit

  • Is afraid of repeating patterns from your own childhood, even in small ways

  • Wonders whether your reactions are really about your child, or about something older

  • Wants to understand why certain moments hit so hard, not just white-knuckle through them

  • Is hopeful — even a little — that healing your history could change your family's trajectory

You don't need a dramatic backstory to belong here. Plenty of the parents we work with had "fine" childhoods that still left them anxious, reactive, or unsure how to be the parent they want to be. That counts, too.

Frequently Asked Questions

Here’s what you might be wondering about

What It Looks Like to Get Started

Reaching out doesn't commit you to anything except a conversation. We'll talk about what's bringing you in, answer your questions, and help you figure out whether this is the right fit — no pressure, no sales pitch, just an honest starting point.

You're allowed to want a different story for your family. We'd be honored to help you write it.